In my previous post, Breakthrough, I talked about the most significant revelation I have had since I have been battling depression and anxiety. That was the realization of how much self perception had to to with how I was feeling and my current track in life. In the past six months, I have made great progress in improving my self image and that has had a big effect on my overall outlook on life and how I feel on a daily basis. But there is still something missing. There is a drag keeping me from being my best self and achieving what I want.
This drag is self confidence. It’s one thing to have a positive perception of yourself, but quite another to have confidence. Perception or image is how you see yourself overall but confidence is a more tangible day to day measure of what you believe you are capable of. As the old adage goes, if you can believe it, you can do it. My challenge this next six months is to improve my self confidence. Somehow I feel like this might be harder than improving my self image, but if I can do it, I will truly be off and running to the life I want to live.
What I know about self confidence is one of the best ways to improve it is to get yourself small wins that are easy to accomplish and built on that to larger wins. It’s often not enough to do all the work in your mind. I think the real key here, though, is to celebrate the wins in a big way to yourself. Over exaggerate the outcome to flood your mind with goodness. You’re trying to overcome a lot of negative mojo, so it takes overwhelming force to do it. That and positive imagining of a future that you want and that is so exciting to even think about. I am also going to try some positive self talk, telling myself verbally as much as possible that I am capable of being the person I want to be, of having the future I am envisioning. As with everything things will not always go as planned, there will be setbacks. Perseverance is key. During the time when I was working on my self perception, there were days and moments when I had to stop and tell myself, this is one of those times when you’re going to have to weather the storm and stay strong. Acknowledging I was in the middle of a challenge and reminding myself to stay strong helped so much.
I have said this battle against depression and anxiety will be a long haul. Welcome to the next phase.